Are you behaving badly on social media?

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My birthday was this past Sunday, March 22nd.  In true Facebook tradition, my fans, friends and followers showed me lots of love.  I had over 600 posts on my timeline, not to mention over 100 messages in my InBox.

I know you’re wondering what this has to do with behaving badly on social media.

Here it is.

There were MANY people who posted “Happy Birthday Tanya” on my timeline and had the audacity to promote themselves with a link to their website or latest indie film. Yeah, they did.

A birthday greeting IS NOT the time for self-promotion!  Not only is it in bad taste, but it makes your birthday wish so ingenuous.

Not only have you behaved badly in my eyes, but you’ve also behaved badly in front of my FB friends and their friends. We really are all six degrees of separation.

Social media common sense has become severely clouded so for this final post in my Social Media: Fans, Friends and Followers series I want to share with you “The 6 Signs That You Are Behaving Badly on Social Media.”  Do you need a social media timeout?

Here are six signs you may be behaving badly on social media…

  1. Too much information.  Your life is a social media stream.  You need not document your every move, thought or activity.  Social media is intended for people to interact with each other.  We really don’t care that you just went to the bathroom. #TheThingsPeoplePost
  2. Living too virtually. You’re online all the time and post and tweet constantly.  Look up from the screen and focus on life around you in the real.   Social media should not be your primary form of communication.  When’s the last time you actually picked up the phone and had a conversation with a friend?
  3. Incessant Complaining. You are always complaining about one thing or another…you can’t get your film financed, lack of audition opportunities, no one is returning your phone calls, the other sex sucks, yada yada yada. Don’t use social media as a complaint forum. It’s not a good look.  We all have woes. Social media should be a drama-free zone.
  4. Trolling.  This is a big one!  I can’t tell you how many people deliberately post polarizing comments just to get attention.  You all know who I’m talking about because we all secretly wish we could shut them up. According to Wikipedia, in Internet slang, a troll is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion. This is a reputation you don’t want to develop.
  5. Group Adds.  Don’t add people to a Facebook Group without asking for their permission. I hate when people do this to me!  If you add people without their consent, the feedback you will get will most likely be negative and don’t surprised if you get blocked. Trust me on this one.
  6. Hijacked Self-Promotion.  Don’t you hate it when someone promotes themselves on your profile without your permission, because they want to reach your audience? Don’t get me started on this one because it’s so wrong!  Make sure you look at a person’s profile and see what its about.  If others aren’t posting their film trailer, what makes you think its okay for you to?  In any case, ask first.

The way people conduct themselves online never ceases to amaze me.  You really have to use your common sense in how you behave.  Think before you do.

There’s an old saying that “you can legislate against everything except stupidity.” That saying is really finding its proof in the age of social media.

Comment below and let me know what your favorite social media pet peeve is.

If you missed the previous posts in this series, here they are:

The 7 Essential Steps That Will Solidify Your Branding on Twitter

Don’t Make These Mistakes Networking on Facebook!

  • March 25, 2015

Leave a Reply 6 comments

Myles Cranford - March 25, 2015 Reply

Great article, Tanya!

RE: “Com­ment below and let me know what your favorite social media pet peeve is.”

At times I find this somewhat disconcerting:

Asking me a question, or otherwise initiating a conversation by posting to my timeline, rather than simply sending me a FB message to my inbox (which seems to me more appropriate).

shawn cunningham - March 25, 2015 Reply

Awesome article Tanya!

nycole - March 25, 2015 Reply

This was great! I still can’t believe they said happy birthday along with self promoting what a selfish way to steal someone’s birthday joy. I’ve had similar experiences

Shahid - March 31, 2015 Reply

I don’t like it when people promote themselves on my facebook page without permission. So I stopped it altogether, I used to not mind it but then people started putting all kinds of things up.

I also don’t like it when people try to make my posts about them, or bringing the attention to themselves. Relating is fine but trying to make it the “Me show” bothers me.

Ronald Webb - July 18, 2015 Reply

Well written Tanya! Common Sense is not very common. But it all starts with home training and learning good manners. I will be reading your other articlesand looking forward to more homespun points of view.

Ronald Webb - July 18, 2015 Reply

Great Article Tanya! Common sense is not so common. It all starts with home training and good manners. I look forward to reading your other articles and more homespun points of view.

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